Good listening means that you look at the other person for who they are, and not who they are in relation to yourself. It's about asking the right questions at the right times to help them discover aspects of themselves that they need to see, while you yourself, the listener, are completely irrelevant.
Now there's a novel concept. While I don't think this particular cryptic essay is meant for me, I can certainly relate.
ReplyDeleteI try to do that as often as I can, but it is challenging.
ReplyDeleteHeheh... more like a cryptic paragraph, if that. But this one wasn't meant to be one of the cryptic ones. It's derived from a philosophical conversation in a chat channel a couple days ago. ;)
ReplyDeleteAnd yeah, it's very challenging. People are naturally self-centered (which I don't mean in the way with negative connotations). It takes conscious effort (or a lot of practice) to be otherwise.
Agreed. Good listening is a harder skill to master than good speaking. It's also a major key to leadership.
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